Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Wife Advice: Tip #1 Just Say Yes

Personally, I think marriage is overrated... As a wife of 20 years, I can say this and know that it is absolutely true. It's not the paper, the ceremony, or the alleged security that I love about my marriage--it's the #BestFriendFactor. Every time I want to do something.... I think about how fun it would be to do this with my husband. Spending time with him is my all time favorite thing to do.

As a member of a very large family, I have had the privilege of observing a lot of great marriage behavior. A LOT!! So, I would like to share some of the advice I was given when I first started out. If you feel you have something to share... please send your advice to me directly at vixxbuzz@gmail.com. I welcome your comments also.

Best Wife Advice

Tip #1: Just say yes. Whatever it is that your husband needs; be willing to do it. Why? Not just because someone else is ALWAYS willing to do it for him (trust me there are shady ladies out there) but because: "Why the hell not?"

I am not saying to bend over backwards, running yourself crazy/ragged getting all his stupid crap done... I am saying if you can fit one thing into your schedule that makes more time for the two of you later... do it. A friend would do that and your spouse should be treated with that level of regard minimally.

I can't count how many times I have dropped off the dry cleaning and picked it up. Why? Because I don't worry about the day-to-day things that need to be done so I can live a comfortable life. The conversation required to make other arrangements isn't worth my time. Just like with all relationships, you have to pick your battles.

Being in a marriage requires you to work. So look at it as that... keep your standards high. Do what needs to be done. Make your husband your favorite. Never be "too good" to be a wife.

That #PamperedPrincess mentality is a waste of space in a marriage because men need certain things. Someone to talk to, someone to laugh with, someone to listen to their concerns.... if that's not you, who is it? And, what else is that person willing to do? Think about that the next time you want to be too good to be a wife.


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