Sunday, March 22, 2015

Watch Your Cheese

The other night, we were watching Why Did I Get Married? The show is overall great, but when we got to the scene where the men are discussing the 80/20... I laughed. I have always thought that this is one of the reasons that I have stayed married for so long. Not because I am settling for 80% but because I feel like I have 90% or more of my needs met at all times. 
My friend said that she didn't understand why a man would leave a good woman for a 20% woman and I really thought about it. I came up with a pretty good analogy. Here it is:

When you are in a relationship, you change and grow. You spread yourself thin in areas and let things fall through the cracks. For all intents and purposes, the final result will look like Swiss Cheese. The areas where you are spread thin or missing altogether, is where this interloper fits in.

At first, it looks like he/she is filling a lot of your needs but really they are filling tiny holes in your marriage. Spots so minuscule that if left alone would rarely be cause for concern.
If you could defrag your marriage and put all of the little pieces that are missing in your relationships in an ordered way, you would see that there is a lot of cheese! 

Now, if you wanted to build a sandwich, AKA #Life... would you want to build it with most of a piece of cheese or the little bits that are missing from a piece of Swiss cheese?

Marriage is work. If you take the time to do it right, you can have something that can last a lifetime. Grow together, love each other, make time, and always remember—someone somewhere would love what you have don't give them the opportunity. 

#20YearsAWife
 
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