Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Are We Spoiling Our Kids?

Are we spoiling our kids? I think some people more than others!

Last night after dinner, I had a great conversation with Miss Jae. She had me laughing uncontrollably as she was describing "Instant Gratification" and the destruction of the American family. I see it everyday. I read. I have Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/vixxbuzz?ref=hl

Here's the story Miss Jae shared:

Her teacher has a kid. This kid is a little bit spoiled and was not happy with his Christmas presents and wanted to go to his friend's house to play with his presents instead. He actually asked his mother if he could go play with his friend's toys because his were not what he wanted!

When the parent said that she didn't think it was okay for him to go over, he responded with "So and so's mom said I can come over anytime I want to play with said toy."

She didn't allow it and her kid pouted and wouldn't leave his fort all day! All day.... Wow, just wow. Wait... he has a fort? Yes! He does and it's handmade and adorable. Apparently, it was exactly what he wanted for Christmas until the said toy hit the scene.

Then Miss Jae said, "Some kids are so into this instant gratification, they don't even want to be your kid anymore because you aren't jumping through the hoops fast enough for them!" Exactly....

It feels like it's bigger than a problem to me... it's more like a disease. You need something else so much that you can't even enjoy your life. How do we cure this? I don't remember being this way when I was a kid. Even though I was a bit on the spoiled side, I still found a lot of joy in my life. In the blessings I had.

So when your kid wants to guilt you into giving them exactly what they want try these 5 tips to curb their desire to run over what works with your family objectives.

1. Ask your kids why. Sometimes giving kids an opportunity to explain why they want something gives them the opportunity to see that they don't need it or you could change your mind.

2. Charge them part of the cost in funds or more responsibility. Make them accountable for what they want. Your boss makes you justify every extra dime you get.... it's great practice.

3. Set a plan to earn it. What do you do to get what you want? You set the steps to get what you want and you follow that plan until you get what you want.

4. #YourKidYourRules. Do what you think is best. When it comes to your kid, no one know more about what has worked in the past.

5. Say No. Say no. If you don't think your kid needs something, don't let them have it. They will live!