Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Say What? The F-Bomb Has Landed

Say What? Little baby precious has let the F-bomb fly again! You are mortified because you know you taught your baby better than that... at least you think you did. But, there was that one time that you didn't know would haunt you for the next day, week, months......

There are things that you can do to get your baby to stop saying that word. Putting chili in their mouth or soap is considered child abuse by some people and most CPS personnel. So, I will advise against this time honored tradition featured on A Christmas Story.

Don't panic... how you handle this situation will dictate how long you will have to deal with the behavior. If you are a fast thinker like my husband, you will immediately say something like "Bad Mommy" and you will get your hand spanked. Crazy I know, but it works.

For those of us who where asleep at the wheel, I have collected a little bit of advice from some of my family and friends who have great kids and parenting advice to share.

1. Don't laugh. Babies do a lot of things for attention. If everyone in the house is rolling on the floor laughing their heads off, the baby will take that as validation. Don't validate poor behavior or it will continue. Chances are you will be in mixed company and your little bundle of joy will let his favorite cuss word fly and trust me... they won't be laughing.

2. Make a face. I know this sounds funny, but it works. Have you ever seen a baby's face when they eat something really sour or hot? That's a great look to have when your little one lets that F-bomb fly. He will know he did something wrong. Babies love to please so giving them visual clues that you are not happy is a great deterrent.

3. Consequences. When you have a baby that is making poor choices, you have to counter with consequences. Some suggestions are listed below.
  • Timeout. Put your kid in a quiet place a little away from the hustle and bustle of your home to "reflect" on their word choice.
  • Take away a toy that they like to play with like a stuffed animal. Let them know that Fishy can't hear those kind of words.
4. Spank the child. Personally, I don't spank kids... but if you do. This might be a good time. A little pat on the hand is what one mom suggested.

5. Stop the Source. Is your child hearing this language on a regular basis? Put a stop to it #YourKidYourRules. If it's you... you know better so do better.

6. Teach Them New Words. Using powerful positive words will make it easier to overcome any bad words. Try short phrases like. "Please stop." "I don't like that." or "I am mad." Remember, they are using these words when they are frustrated so give them some words they can use instead.

Don't give up your efforts, be consistent. #YourKidYourRules. You have the parenting ability to stop this behavior. If you are keeping it out of your mouth, it's easier to keep it out of theirs. Happy parenting!

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21 comments:

  1. Yikes! this is a toughie. they don't even know what they are saying, just repeating like a parrot. Great advice about how to handle it

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    1. They don't know what they are saying at all! That is the worst part. Thanks for your comment.

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  2. My kids never dropped that before, but as they are getting older they are dropping things here and there.. We are nipping it but its hard to get a handle on it..

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    1. Super hard! I would love to perfect a method and teach it all over the world... mostly in the Bahamas.

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  3. Kids always repeat what they hear. So you do have to be very careful about what you say around them. I like the idea of giving them other words to use in place of what you don't want them to say.

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  4. Very interesting tips to keep in mind.. Hopefully, the situation never happens, but now I'll be prepared.

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  5. I have never heard young kids do this before, but it does have to do with what they hear and especially if people laugh I'm sure they would continue to think it's funny.

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  6. Children learn from us so the first thing we need to do is to clean up our act! Do as I say and not as I do just won't work! Children are going to hear this word because it's become commonplace. Don't make a big deal out of it!!

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  7. You must really watch what your say around kids because the are like parrots. If they heard it somewhere else, then I feels it's okay to talk to them about not saying that word.

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  8. Just wait until the teenage years! For now…ignore it and hopefully it will stop.

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    1. I have the teenage years in full force around here! 16 and 18. I am just hanging out with my nephew and he's acting up. He has been my muse, my kids didn't use bad language. I didn't let them hang out with ruffians.

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  9. Thanks for shedding light on this! Hopefully it can save someone a bunch of embarrassment later.

    Yvonne B.

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  10. This is really a great tip, but the best way to stop kids from saying it is to not say it yourself. All it takes is one time. I think all parents have had to deal with bad language from a toddler on one occasion or another. Don't laugh is great advice too, but man is that a hard one to follow. Thanks for posting.

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  11. I have four kids and they never used that word, for sure they never heard it from us.
    We never spanked our kids or punished them in the traditional ways.

    The first time my daughter said to me F you was when I gave her a ride and she was 17. I was shocked.
    I knew not to react, definitely not with anger. I waited a minute and I said to her, what you just said is very disrespectful to me but first it's disrespectful to you. she waited a minute and gave me a big and said I am sorry.

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  12. Great Advice! I have used a couple of these myself with my 5 Year old. We recently visited family for the holidays and he started to say the F word while playing games on his Kindle Fire. He was grounded from his Kindle for 2 days and spanked 3 times for saying it a second time. Being around older teenage cousins who cuss a lot and don't listen when told to watch what they say in front of little ones results in little ones using curse words. Needless to say, my son learned his lesson and has not said any curse words since. =)

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    1. I am glad you were able to get it under control! Thanks for your comment.

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  13. This is so true. I heard my daughter say damn the other night and I was like :O I had a long talk with her and told her that it was a grown up word and she is not to say it. I haven't heard her say it since.

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    1. Aye! I am glad the talking worked... I am a true believer in talking to your kids. It gives them skills to get along with others.

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  14. Ouch - yes, we've all probably been there. I think the not laughing advice is spot on - it's so tempting to laugh because it's so shocking to hear that come from your baby but doing that only gives it more attention.

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