Monday, December 30, 2013

How to Raise a Great Kid

This week is usually filled with great time off to relax and enjoy my family. But, this year my hubby is working and I am watching my half-sister's kids. I would love to say that watching kids is easy, but it's not.

Those "people" who say that stay at home moms have it easy, have no clue. I am not sure if I have the energy to hang out with babies everyday. Between the running, diapers, and whining.... no thanks. I don't remember it being so hard when my kids were little babies. Then my hubby reminded me that my kids were on my schedule and they were molded to fit like little puzzle pieces into my life that accented my very existence. In other words, it was fun.

The one thing I am getting out of the experience is remembering the fun high energy level of a happy baby! So happy that his face lights up the whole room. That's when I justify all of the sacrifices and time spent perfecting my bundle of joy in spite of all the useless advice I received. My kid "training" made it easy to wake up every day and live an exhausted life. So exhausted.

So today, I am going to share some advice that I wish someone had given me when I was a stay at home mommy taking care of my little angels.

1. Your baby, your rules. Don't let someone else tell you how to raise your kid. If you are using common sense and raising a kid that is well balanced then you are doing it right. Did your kid eat? Ok, you are off to a great start!

2. You're baby is more important than a spotless house. Babies get cranky, then they pass out. You should take a hint. If you are exhausted, take a nap when your baby does. It's a great time to recharge. The house will be there when you wake up.

3. Watch Your Mouth. It's more than the bad words. It's every thing. Speak happiness and kindness into your kid's life. Don't talk down about your kid and put negativity into the universe.

4. Communicate Clearly with your Baby. Using real words to communicate with your kid will make it easier for you. If you allow your kid to gesture for the things he/she wants, you will end up frustrated. Read books to your baby and hold them tight. They are only little for a short time.

So to all you stay at home mommy slackers, I applaud you for all you do to make your children rays of hope for the future... Thank you!

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20 comments:

  1. I have never had kids, so I don't know much about having them around the house or raising them. (I have my ideas about how I would raise them if I had some, but that's another story).

    I have friends with little kids which they bring over from time to time, so I do know what a handful they can be. And recently I did a teaching gig with a classfull of slightly older kids (eightish, for the most part); they were certainly energetic and tricky to get a lid on.

    But babies? I can only imagine what it's like being at home with one all day. My hat is off to moms that do it. Not a piece of cake by any means. Your advice is great. I especially agree with number four: "Communicate clearly with your baby." The ability of their small but rapidly growing brains to process what we are saying to them is nothing short of miraculous, and I feel we do them a disservice to be babbling goo-goos and ga-ga's at them. They are trying to figure out every thing said to them, and to spout nonsense only makes it harder for them. IMO, anyway.

    Yes to reading. It is imperative they be read to, ALWAYS. A stupid TV is NOT the way to entertain a young child.

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  2. My grandkids are getting older (with the youngest one being 3-years). So, they're pretty easy and fun to spend time with. I've found that it does help to have things to do to keep them entertained. And, being aware of when they get tired and need some down time helps too.

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    1. When they get tired and whiny... Naptime... :)

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  3. Oh it is not easy raising kids in today's world... You are right on with your points! I would say that coming home from a hard day, and seeing the kids smiling faces makes it all worth it.

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  4. This is some really great advice for raising kids. Your experience is definitely based on experience and trial and error

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  5. Sleep when they sleep and you won't be so tired. More energy can equate into more quality time with your little loves! Be careful not to yell at those precious babies of yours. Play! Play!! Play!!! Play as much as you can because when they are grown you will look back and wish you would have played more.

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  6. Sounds like some great rules to follow when caring for a baby or raising your own child! I think having a children is a learning experience just like anything else and you only get better with time:)

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    1. I agree... they kids have said that they want a little brother. That kid would be so spoiled rotten... and well raised.. So much of parenting is hindsight 20/20. First kid.. Pampers. Second kid... whatever is on sale!

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  7. It's really hard juggling life and still raise a great kid! Prioritizing is the best way I now how to do it

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  8. I'm really sorry they don't have Parenting 101 in schools. Perhaps if people realized how involved and important parenting is, they would reconsider becoming parents. Thanks for the good advice you provided.

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    1. I agree... they should teach real parenting in school to all of the kids... not just the teen moms.

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  9. "You're baby is more important than a spotless house" is something i must remind to myself every morning when i wake up to my 5 years old tornadoes. He has been off school for two weeks now and i'm running out of ideas to keep him entertain so that he doesn't completely destroy the living room. One more week to go and back to school he goes lol

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    1. Notice that I only posted a pic of the cute kid.... not the trashed house. My brother came by yesterday and asked if I quit cleaning the house. I said I couldn't do it from the pool, beach, or Sea World... so it will have to wait. LOL

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  10. It is awesome that you take your time to write and make it available to the public.
    There is no harder job than being a mother.

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  11. I especially love "Your baby is more important than a spotless house". Extended that into life. Your LIFE is more important than a spotless house. Love to have my living space neat and clean, but sometimes there is just more important things to do.

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  12. Agreed Debbie... My LIFE is more important than a clean house. Now that my kids are 16 and 18... I have a lot of help.

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